Thread:Trigger009/@comment-16581186-20151129134033/@comment-995426-20151129180318

Trigger009 wrote: I saw your edit, looks good all checks out and stuff so no need to worry. also happy holidays :) I wish it were less complicated to add Category:LGBT Characters. It's frustrating to have so many people completely fail to understand gay people and their most basic conventional wisdom.  It's frustrating when something happens on TV show we all watch, gay people very clearly take notice, and it's such an uphill struggle just to be believed, and it's even worse when we start to see those things steadily quietly disappear in front of our eyes.  It feels like an erasure of who we are, and that's painful.

It's so much easier to prove Slash is gay. Even Yoshimickster believes it, for all his other skepticism. The character Raphael has been written now is not gay...but at one time years ago he totally was, and that erasure is difficult to forgive.

So when I was already in fan pain, UltimateTitan6's comment felt like a snipe from a position of entrenched privilege and comfort. What hurts isn't the debate itself&mdash;what hurts is the feeling that my insights are seen as worth less than other people's, because people are already so used to them being invisible in their popular entertainment. A lot of gay people constantly have to straddle two worlds, when it seems like most hetero people still have neither a clue nor the inclination to really try to understand outside their familiar comfort zones. Some hetero people do have a good acquired understanding of that other world, and write pretty convincing portrayals even in popular entertainment; but they often still try to write about it discreetly, because of all the people who will still scream bloody murder when that other world doesn't remain perfectly invisible from their children's eyes. I'm so, so tired of that invisibility and ignorance. I want us all to live in one world, where I don't have to expect people to treat my sincerest insights as far-fetched or asterisked.